POLYDAY

2017

A day of talks and socialising for the non-monogamous community

7 October, London, UK

A one-day event for everyone who knows that happy, healthy and honest relationships don’t have to be monogamous, Polyday combines a day of discussions and social space to give you a chance to meet like-minded people, to build our community and to celebrate its diversity.

At Polyday you’ll meet a wide variety of people who all have different answers to a range of different questions, but who all want to explore the possibilities for happy, healthy and honest non-monogamous relationships.

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Add to My Calendar 2017-10-07 9:30:00 2017-10-07 21:00:00 Europe/London Polyday London 2017 A one-day event for everyone who knows that happy, healthy and honest relationships don’t have to be monogamous. Wilditch Community Centre. 48 Culvert Road, London, SW11 5BB

WHAT’S ON

This year, Polyday will feature many of the most sucessful talks and speakers that we have had in the previous years, along with new contributors.

Doors Open

9:30

Welcome

Some predictable announcements, some exciting ones and a great big welcome for everyone from the organisers!

10:15

Poly 101

An introduction to polyamory for everyone just starting out on the road to ethical non-monogamy. If you’re new to polyamory this is for you. We will probably cover common problems you might encounter, ways to start, what style might make you happiest, strange new words and how not to mess up.

Facilitated by Charlotte Davies

10:30 - 11:40

Polyamory & Parenting

Come join in with a sincere group discussion around the challenges and joys of parenting within poly families. 
Bring your own experiences, advice, questions and qualms around this much needed and sensitively addressed topic.

Facilitated by DK Green

11:55 - 13:05

Lunch Break

You can bring your own packed meal (no facilities for heating or keeping cool) or purchase something from the many shops in the area. All food consumed on site, must be done so inside the venue.

13:05 - 14:30

Polyamory & Mental Health

Though it is often an avoided subject and sometimes particularly within diverse communities, here we will discuss mental health in regard to polyamory. 
Bring your own experiences, advice, questions and qualms around this much needed and sensitively addressed topic.

Facilitated by DK Green

14:35 - 15:45

Negotiation and consent in polyamory and kink

This session will explore ways of keeping your non-monogamous and kinky exploits as ethical and consensual as possible.

It will focus on the types of conversations you should be having with new and existing partners when expanding your polycule, as well as navigating the grey areas of having kinky play partners.

We will discuss the concepts of opt-in and opt-out consent, ask-first vs tell-after lists, and want-will-won’t list. Not to mention the joys of spreadsheet negotiation!

Facilitated by Luke Phoenix

16:00 - 17:10

Make Your Own Relationship Guide

In this workshop, Meg-John Barker introduces the concept of the relationship user guide: a manual we can all write about our ways of doing relationships, to share with partners, prospective partners, and other people in our lives.

An important part of the user guide is explaining how we like to do polyamory (or any other relationship style). People often assume that poly means the same thing to everyone, but it might well not, so it’s helpful to unpack what it means to us.

Workshop attendees will receive a copy of Meg-John and Justin Hancock’s ‘Make Your Own Relationship User Guide’ zine which is a helpful starting point for creating your own user guide, and we’ll have a go at some of the activities in the workshop together.

Facilitated by Meg-John Barker

17:25 - 18:35

Raffle & Goodbyes

A quick word from the organisers and the raffle of prizes to lucky ticket holders. Raffle tickets will be on sale on the day of the event and go entirely into supporting the organisation of Polyday.

18:40 - 19:00

Doors Open

9:30

Welcome

Some predictable announcements, some exciting ones and a great big welcome for everyone from the organisers!

10:15

Poly 201

A more detailed look at living as a polyamorous person, for everyone who’s been doing this for a little while. We’ll be discussing some of the ins and out of practicing polyamory in the long term, and you are welcome to share your own experiences too.

Facilitated by Angus

10:30 - 11:40

Doing Polyamory Wrong (or Why It’s Ok To Go Your Own Way)

A lot of people worry about doing poly wrong, and are indeed sometimes told if they don’t do X they are indeed “bad at poly”. This workshop will explore how poly norms can be imposed on relationships just as mono norms are, and the damage this can do. Attendees will explore how to look at relationships differently, in ways that work for them rather than conforming to supposed rules of poly.

Facilitated by Karen Pollock

11:55 - 13:05

Lunch Break

You can bring your own packed meal (no facilities for heating or keeping cool) or purchase something from the many shops in the area. All food consumed on site, must be done so inside the venue.

13:05 - 14:30

Sexual Health in Non-Monogamous Relationships

A General How-to: an informative talk focused on communication about sexual health, issues of shame or vulnerability around STI’s, and discussing boundaries and desires with new and old partners. We will include additional resources for those who would like more technical details.

Facilitated by Jen Hazel

14:35 - 15:45

Being an Enigma: the personal complexities of being BAME and Poly in today’s society.

An Enigma. A minority of a minority.

Zayna will begin with a presentation of her own personal complexities of being BAME and poly in today’s society followed by facilitating an open floor discussion on how the intersectionality may have impacted your life.

All welcome to come, share your experiences and join in.

Facilitated by Zayna Ratty
Hypnotherapist | Psychotherapist | Alternative Sexuality Public Speaker | Blogger | Oxford Friend Charity Trustee & Outreach Worker | Oxford Pride Community Liaison Officer

M: 07891819823 | W: ZRTherapy | T: zrtherapy | B: In the Shires

 

16:00 - 17:10

Lightning Talks

Do you have something you want to share?  Want to talk about your passion for 5 minutes?

Come join the lightning talks! You’ll have 5 mins maximum to share your passion, give a speech, enlighten others. Hopefully you’ll spark a conversation to continue later.

Strict time limit enforced. Sign up with the Registration desk:  First come, first on stage.

Facilitated by Paul Pennant

17:25 - 18:35

Raffle & Goodbyes

A quick word from the organisers and the raffle of prizes to lucky ticket holders. Raffle tickets will be on sale on the day of the event and go entirely into supporting the organisation of Polyday.

18:40 - 19:00

TICKETS

Polyday is a non-profit event run by volunteers.

Full price on the door
£20
Only full price tickets available on the door, no concessions
Early Bird price
£15.50
plus Eventbrite fees for tickets bought
before 6pm on Friday 6 October 2017
Concessions
£11
plus Eventbrite fees for tickets bought
before 6pm on Friday 6 October 2017
Concessions available for people receiving benefits, full-time students, OAPs, low waged and children 6-17 years.
Angel
£26.50
plus Eventbrite fees for tickets bought
before 6pm on Friday 6 October 2017
This gives you one ticket for you to use, and donates one to the Angel Fund, which enables a person who couldn’t otherwise afford a ticket to come.

If you need assistance to attend, please fill in this form to request aid through the Angel Fund.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

What time does the day start?

Doors open at 9:30. Greetings and housekeeping will take place at 10:15 and the first sessions start at 10:30.

Where does the price of my ticket go?

Spaces in London are really expensive. Literally 99% of your ticket goes to paying for the venue, with the remaining 1% covering miscellaneous event costs (blu tac, stickers, paper…).

The venues consistently cost around £2k, and we haven’t been able to find any venues that are significantly cheaper than that for our requirements.

 Can I get food at the venue? Are refreshments available?

There are shops/pubs/cafes in the area, so we won’t have catering on offer this time.

There will be teas and coffee and a few snacks available to purchase for a small contribution. You may bring your own picnic if you want.

There is also a microwave available if you need to get something reheated at lunchtime.

What tickets are available on the door?

Day tickets (£20) are available on the door. Please note that we cannot offer concessions on the day.

Can I bring children?

Yes. Children under 12 pay £10 (available at the door only). Children under 5 can come in for free.

Please note that there will be no childcare service. Children must be accompanied at all times by an adult. Sessions suitable only for those over 18 will be flagged.

What is the nearest train station?

Battersea Park is the nearest suburban rail station.

Clapham Junction is about 12 minutes away by public transport.

Can I sponsor Polyday?

Please get in touch to discuss sponsoring possibilities.

I am writing and article/making a documentary on polyamory. Can I attend?

People working in the media are welcome to attend Polyday by purchasing a ticket and requesting a “Press Badge”. Please do so through our contact form.

Can I bring/pass out flyers for my business/event?

You can bring flyers, which we will place on a table for that purpose.

Who would I contact if I want to volunteer?

Thank you for volunteering! Polyday wouldn’t be possible without the support of people like you.

Please fill the contact form to volunteer.

Do the organisers get paid for their work?

No, we don’t get paid – in fact, we even pay for our own (full price) tickets! We also don’t get our expenses paid (and some of us don’t live in London) so between travelling to the monthly committee meetings and things we buy for Polyday, it actually costs us more as individuals to attend than anyone else!

Is the venue accessible?

Please check our accessibility section. More information on the accessibility of the venue can be find in the DisabledGo website.

Where can I find more resources about Polyamory?

Polytical.org features a list of online resources to learn more about polyamory and connect with other non-monogamous people.

THE VENUE

Wilditch Community Centre

Wilditch Community Centre
48 Culvert Rd, Battersea
London SW11 5BB

ACCESSIBILITY

We work to make Polyday as accessible as possible.

Venue Accessibility Details

Here are the venue details as according to DisabledGo.

Before the event

If you have a disability or other access need (eg mobility issue, sensory impairment, mental health need, learning disability/difficulty) please get in touch as early as possible.

If you are coming to Polyday with your own support/personal assistant/carer you will not be expected to pay for them to attend to support you.

On the day

Seating should be available throughout the day, as will refreshments.

If you are having problems on the day, please ask one of the many volunteer helpers for assistance, don’t stay silent – it may be that we can solve any problem on the spot, and if not it’s useful to help us run future events.

SEND US A MESSAGE

If you have any questions about the event, please contact us using the form below.






HELP US OUT

Thanks for any help you can give. Polyday is all about the people who come. Help us attract a big, diverse crowd and the day will be all the better.

Volunteer

We are always looking for people who are planning to attend and would like to help us out by volunteering.

Please get in touch.

Spread the word on your network

Please mention Polyday in your blog or website, and link to our website.

Please mention us in communities or mailing lists you’re a member of where you think it’s appropriate too.

Tweet about us (#polydayUK), and invite people to our Facebook event!

Distribute flyers

Can you distribute flyers for us where interested people might be? Get in touch through the form and we can send you some of our A6 colour flyers.

You can also download a pdf here.

CODE OF CONDUCT

To help make Polyday enjoyable for everyone who attends, we’ve drawn up this code of conduct.

Privacy
  • We love photographs, but please only photograph, film, or record people with their express consent, and say if and where any recording or photograph will be used.
  • Keep what is said in workshops confidential. If you discuss a workshop, whether in conversation, in a blog entry, or elsewhere, don’t identify any participants without their permission.
  • When discussing attenders more generally, please use the name on their name badge.
  • Please respect the privacy of others generally.
Press
  • People from the media can attend Polyday by purchasing a ticket and requesting a “Press Badge” that they must wear at all times.
  • No filming, recording or photographing can take place during workshops. Participants can only be filmed, photographed or interviewed if they are adults and give express consent.
General
  • No smoking inside at Polyday – this is the law.
  • Party responsibly; try to avoid getting too drunk or too dehydrated.
Consent
  • No means no: if someone asks you to leave them alone, please do so immediately.
  • No one at Polyday should be put under any pressure to join in with anything they don’t want to.
  • Hugs and touches can be great, but not everybody wants them. Don’t invade personal space unless you are invited to. A useful phrase is ‘Would you like a hug?’.
  • Polyday is not a fetish club or a sex club; please keep any behaviour legal, and generally within the bounds of what’s acceptable in public.
  • If you’re getting unwanted attention from someone, you can tell the desk or workshop facilitator, and we will politely tell them to stop. We’re happy to do so even if you haven’t asked them to stop since that’s not always easy to do.

If you have any problems, questions or comments, or notice anything that concerns you, please talk to the staff on the registration desk.

Should we find it necessary to ask a Polyday attender to leave for the safety or wellbeing of others, no refund will be offered.

MEET, DISCUSS AND CELEBRATE THE DIVERSITY OF THE NON-MONOGAMOUS COMMUNITY

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